Helping Teens (and Ourselves) Focus on What We Get a Vote In
- Lauran Thomas
- Jul 22
- 2 min read
When life feels heavy, it’s easy for teens—and adults—to get caught up in things that are frustrating, unfair, or simply out of our hands. Whether it’s a friend’s behavior, how quickly healing happens, or the opinions of others, these are things we often care deeply about... but don’t get a vote in.
At KS Services, we love this visual that encourages a mindset shift:
☁️ What I don’t get a vote in
🌈 What I DO get a vote in
When we stop spending energy on the things outside our vote—and start investing in what is within our influence—we create space for peace, resilience, and growth.
Things we don’t get a vote in might include:
The past
Other people’s actions or opinions
When growth happens
What’s going on around us
The outcome of our efforts
Worrying about these things can feel exhausting and defeating.
But we do get a vote in:
The goals we set and what we focus on
Our boundaries and how we care for ourselves
What we give our energy to
How we speak to ourselves—and others
Choosing to walk in faith, rest, and love
Helping your teen recognize where their voice and choices matter can be a game-changer. And honestly? It’s a reminder most of us could use, too.
Download your free visual tool to keep on your fridge, journal, classroom, or counseling space below.
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