Betrayal Isn’t Just Physical—10 Emotional Betrayals That Can Hurt Relationships
- Lauran Thomas
- 2 days ago
- 1 min read
When we think about betrayal in relationships, we often picture physical infidelity. But betrayal can take many forms—many of them emotional. Emotional distance, secrecy, lack of empathy, or ongoing disconnection can be just as damaging.
Dr. John Gottman outlines ten non-sexual types of betrayal that can quietly erode trust and connection over time. These patterns don’t always involve dramatic conflict, but they can still leave one or both partners feeling deeply hurt and alone.
Here’s a snapshot of just a few:
Conditional Commitment: Staying in a relationship only until someone “better” comes along.
Lying: Even small lies, especially when repeated, can prevent true intimacy.
Forming Coalitions Against Your Partner: Siding with others—especially family or friends—against your partner can feel like a major betrayal.
Withdrawing Interest or Affection: Whether emotionally, sexually, or even physically pulling away, it communicates rejection.
Breaking Promises: When promises are broken—especially repeatedly—trust can begin to unravel.
Recognizing these behaviors doesn’t mean a relationship is doomed. In fact, awareness is the first step toward healing. As Dr. Gottman says, “These betrayals can be overcome if you recognize the problem and repair the relationship.”
Download our free handout to explore all 10 types of non-sexual betrayal and start a conversation with your partner or therapist today:
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